Mother's Day dawned just as any other here. A quick 'good morning' being the only greeting. Just another day. Nothing to see here. Move along please.....
Even though it was Sunday an early school drop-off needed doing, for musical rehearsals, so I just did it.
I'm a mother, this is what I do. It's my job to do the little things. To care, to nurture. As best I can. The same as all mothers, before us and to come, the whole world over. Every day of the year.
And I usually get a 'thanks' for these little things too. Most days.
I don't really need Mother's Day for that.
Some mothers get smothered with cards, gifts and affection on this day. And some do not.
Some mothers have lost their own mothers so this day can be difficult for them.
Some mothers don't like this day at all and insist on 'no fuss' being made. For the record, I am not one of these!
Some elderly mothers are in nursing homes and get no visitors, let alone cards and gifts, on this day. As was evident by the cards bought and strewn over beds in our nursing home. Lest anyone felt left out. Such a lovely gesture I thought.
The commercialism of it puts pressure on and makes some mothers feel left out.
Just another Hallmark Day on the calendar.
Yet it is nice for children to be taught - yes, 'taught' - to appreciate their mums, even just a little. And their dads on Father's Day too. It is good for them to know that a whole universe exists in which they are not the centre piece!
But there is no need for any of this pressure.
Although a card would be nice I don't need all of this to feel loved. I can get (or rob!) a hug any time I want. Any day of the year.
I was pretty much ready to cancel this and all future Mother's Days from the calendar though.
But the day was to improve....
I was grateful for my early start this morning, for it facilitated me in making an early visit to my own mother. I'm lucky to still have her, for however long we will be allowed this honour. Being present yet absent is always a feature so visits can be fraught with competing emotions and confusion.
In I went armed with little gifts for her and my usual compartmentalised facade firmly in place.
But I needn't have worried.
Today was a wonderful, happy and relatively lucid day.
It was a day of mutual appreciation of one another.
A day of 'thank yous' and smiles.
A day of wishing each other 'Happy Mother's Day'. Repeatedly!!
It was unexpected and delightful.
On this Mother's Day it was as equally fulfilling and important being a daughter, as it was being a mother.....
So, maybe I won't cancel Mother's Day after all.
Maybe I'll just re-name it 'Mother's Mutual Appreciation Day'.
We can all appreciate each other, and be conscious of mums who don't get made a fuss off.
Of course if the children and teenagers want to join in, well and good. But no big deal if they don't.
Besides, I hear there is a card. In his room. And dinner awaits in the local public house!
However your day went on this Mothering Sunday I do hope you made it a good one ;-)