This Helicopter Needs to Land.....



It's a long road that leads from lovely sweet baby-ness, meandering to 'vigorous' toddler-hood - then heads straight on to the highway to hell all-knowing teendom.


And it all passes by in the blink of an eye.....


How can it be that one day I'm holding the cutest baby to ever grace this earth in my arms, and the next thing he's suddenly sitting his Junior Certificate mock examinations - at the ever-so-wise age of fifteen?!


Whatever road your journey has brought you on we've all - parents and children alike - worked really hard to suddenly arrive at our current destination. We've coddled and cuddled them in their sweet baby-ness time, steered and guided them through the willful and 'vigorous' toddler-hood years, and maybe a bit of all the above all along the highway to all-knowing teendom. Most, but not all it must be said, have pretty much been lead by the hand and were dropped, collected and minded all along the route.


On the journey we lead and encourage them to attend to their school and life responsibilities and to do the best they can, but somewhere along the way their independence, that we've nurtured and promoted, blossoms and they want to make their own decisions. Their own time-schedules. In their own time.


After all, you can bring a horse to water and all that but you cannot make it study. Or something like that....


Besides there's a whole world of a difference between a willful toddler and a willful teenager you know!


And at some stage the parenting helicopter must stop hovering and land.


There comes a time when we need to stand back and let them make their own mistakes. In their own time. As they wish.


It's very, very hard though.


I suspect that this Jazzy Chinook may need to be shot down!!


But we'll live in the hope that the forthcoming Transition Year will help guide us to a safe landing.


So that the fledgling man-child can man-up and begin his maiden flight.


Meanwhile there are some time-and-patience-consuming state exams to take care of, which means that this parenting helicopter may need to do some 'selective-hovering' for another wee while; to suit demands from both sides ;-)


And wine may be had.


By me, not the fledgling man-child!



Take care,





12 comments:

  1. Very hard to fly away and land :) Best of luck to your boy in all his exams this year xx

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    1. @Looking for Blue Sky: Yes, it really is. Maybe it's not quite time yet though? They may think they've reached all-knowing teendom at the ripe old age of fifteen, but really they haven't. It's maintaining the hovering, through the teen hormonal battlefield, to make that point that's exhausting!! Thanks for the good wishes :-) xx

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  2. Interestingly, the most successful of my friends and their children have been those whose parents took a more active role in their school work and life decisions. Also talking to your teenager about the realities of life and why qualifications matter is essential. I was largely left to my own devises and now regret that I wasn't pushed to reach my potential. I was left unmotivated because I didn't realise what it was all for. I didn't even know what sort of jobs were available. We weren't given any guidance at school and I went to teacher training college so there were no career fairs. I didn't realize the value of working hard in my 20s and getting on the property ladder early. I basically woke up to real life at abut 35 years old. That's a lot of years wasted and I'm still struggling now while most of my friends are entering a more comfortable period of life with mortgages paid off and secure careers. Sorry for the ramble, but I just wanted to tell you not to land just yet.

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  3. @Midlife Singlemum: Thanks for your hugely insightful comment. You see, a large part of my mother brain is making the exact same points, especially the one about why qualifications matter. About only having one chance to sit these exams, telling him he'll never get this time back. A know-it-all teen doesn't want to hear it. But like I say, I need to do some selective-hovering, over the issues that really matter I guess ?
    Can I guess that you're going to be a similar parent to your little one?! xx

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  4. Oh, how I understand those feelings so very well! I hope he (and you) encounter the very best of what life has to offer and that he ace those exams!

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    1. @Shelly: Thanks for your lovely comment! x

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  5. Glad to hear the wine is for you! I'm having to learn to sit back and allow them some freedome to make mistakes an learn too, very tough! Mich x

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    1. @Michelle Twin Mum: Yes, definitely for me! Mind you, only another 3 years before he can chose to join me. Now THAT'S a scary thought!!
      And I agree, SO hard to let them make mistakes. Especially when it comes to exams as they only get one chance..... x

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  6. Oh good luck with the next few months. I have a long way to go until I'm wearing shoes but I remember the torture I put my parents through and hope I can learn something from that for my own kids. It's a tough time for everyone. Good luck!

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    1. @thenowmoment: Thanks for the good wishes, I need them! And the same to you when the testing exam times comes to your house!

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  7. Enjoy every hair raising moment.... and keep quaffing that wine. The next three years will pass in the blink of an eye. Believe me, I know. I dare not say anything else, except maybe whisper softly, "girls and booze". Keep those lines of communication open! xx

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    1. @Bright Side of Life: Oh gosh, how the next three years scares the life out of me! Will I be ready and able to land my chinook?
      "Girls and booze" you say?
      Oh my...... pass that bottle of wine will ya?!! xx

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