Goals and Remembrances.........

As I've said before I don't do New Year's Resolutions, they're just made to be broken after all. But I do have goals, things that I want to achieve. I like to have goals, they give me a purpose and besides, I always seem to be working towards something; it's what makes me tick. 

To me the New Year is always a great opportunity to start afresh. All those unfinished thoughts, projects, goals and things to do that never got done but can be re-visited, or re-created. No need to feel as if you've under-achieved, just start afresh.

I'm a tad late to the New Start this year but, it's never too late to begin anew and besides, you can't really do so until school is back now, can you?!

My goals for 2014 are a mix of things that will keep me going for the whole 12 months. I have drawn up a definitive list of these goals, for to put them in writing gives them some importance in my head and therefore a possibility of achievement.

Of course the usual weight-loss and re-rejuvenated commitment to exercise, and other lifestyle changes, features - I did it before and I will do it again. Some interesting (to me) knitting and crochet projects also features as does some family orientated goals and an intention to continue my involvement in Social Media..... and in some meetings that may lead a new and very interesting project indeed!

Underpinning all of the above is a re-visited determination (and a plan) to be more organised on a daily basis, for this clears my oft muddled head and ultimately makes life easier.

One final goal is something that started last year and that social networking, and an unexpected event, has assisted me with; re-connecting with extended family that I'd lost touch with.

Among my re-connections is the re-location of a cousin in the UK and a determination to find another.

As we grow older families, especially large ones, do tend to drift apart. That's life, sometimes assisted by disagreements it must be said, but life is too short.

Sadly, this particular goal of mine got a bit of an unexpected boost with the funeral of my uncle 2 days ago. I was very sad to hear of his passing (and that of another uncle too) and although I didn't get to re-connect with him before he died I did get to reconnect with his children. The little bit of blue sky in an otherwise sad day.

My uncle was a hard working and devoted family man who was hugely involved in construction and Karate, where he achieved the esteemed title of Senior Grand Master,  and who left behind a legacy steeped in these involvements of his. The 'legacy' he'd be most proud of however, is his lovely family who did him very proud on the day, especially his eldest son who gave a very moving eulogy.

One of his construction legacies stands proud in our back garden. Not knowing me as the desperate housewife I was to become, he once slagged me that I'd be like his (late) wife and have a vase of flowers in both windows.

As you can see that wasn't to be..... and I shudder to think of his thoughts if he saw the inside!

So now, at the very top of my 2014 goals is my plan to honour his prediction this summer - in my own way.

May he rest peacefully and be remembered fondly.



  1. Resolutions seem to be passe across the board in favour of goals this year. I wish you luck with yours, especially reconnecting with cousins. Happy new Year xxx.

  2. Good news that you got to find your cousins, sorry to hear about your Uncle though. I wish you a peaceful 2014 filled with joy and hope you can achieve some of your goals. Mich x

  3. I'm useless at making and sticking to any resolutions!! I have booked myself already on a crochet course in Jan so I'm pretty excited about that. It is sad to hear your news but it is good when families get the chance to reunite and get back in touch again even on those circumstances x

  4. @Midlife Singlemum: Thank you. Goals work well for me. No doubt I won't attain them all but I will give it my best shot. And revisit my list from time to time as I know I'll fall off the wagon!

    @Michelle Twin Mum: Thanks Mich, I appreciate that.

    @mum in meltdown: Excellent... go for it! I'm religiously following 'The Art of Crochet' series and will tick with it to the bitter end. Thanks, My uncle's passing was a shock and quite sad but something good did come out of it :-)

    Thank you all for your comments :-)

    xx Jazzy

  5. Sorry to hear about your uncle. Although it is wonderful that you have made those family re-connections. I just wish the circumstances were different for you. I am awful at resolutions..I think it goes back to me just loathing being told what to do by anyone...resolutions feel that way to me. So-instead I have resolved to have absolutely no resolutions at all! :)) I'm sure that you can and will do anything you set your mind to doing-AND I so look forward to reading about all of it! Happy wonderful New Year to you and yours!!

  6. @kathleen: Thank you and yes, better circumstances would have been better but at least something positive came out of it. I normally don't do resolutions either but I want change and achievements in certain areas. No doubt my determination will waiver but nothing like motivation to get me started!

    A wonderful Happy New Year to you and your fab family :-)

    xx Jazzy

  7. I can never get my head around New Year resolutions, probably because I know that I would never follow through with them!! Good idea to write up a list of goals and I think vases of flowers in the windows of that cute building would look fab. So sorry about your Uncle, always sad to lose family. xx

  8. Happy New Year! Good luck with the plans, and so sorry about the loss of your uncle xx

  9. Very sad to hear about the passing of your uncles, and sorry that you had lost touch with them. It's great to be able to do something to honour them though, I think that's a wonderful thing to do xx

  10. Loved your post
    No need to make up or catch up - just start afresh
    I love how you honored your uncle too

  11. I feel exactly the same way about New Years Resolutions and prefer to have goals too. You've got some great ones there. Sorry to hear of your loss x

  12. Hi Jazzy
    I have nominated you for the winter tag. The details are on the blog but I fully understand if you don't have the time to do it as I know how time consuming it can be xx

  13. Love the top picture. So sorry to hear about your uncle, must have been a shock to find out.... and a very realistic set of goals, I think the health ones are a given aren't they? X

  14. @Bright Side of Life: Goals are definitely hard to stick to but I aim to try!

    @Looking for Blue Sky: Thanks, I really aim to stick to that goal!

    @Floortime Lite Mama: Thank you :-)

    @Lous Lake Views: For some reason the word 'goals' makes it seem less.... severe, and therefore more do-able!

    @Rachel: That sounds interesting, thank you! I will go check it out and will do it, if I can :-)

    @Older Mum: Thanks, on both counts. Yes, it was a shock alright. I think failing the health ones are a given too but we'll give it a shot!!

    Thank you all for your lovely comments :-)

    xx Jazzy

  15. I, too, do not make New Year's resolutions and instead focus on goals and write up an action plan to achieve them. I am not always successful with this, but I always try! Sorry to hear about your uncle, but at least there was the silver lining of reconnecting with cousins. We had a lot of that going on when my dad died, and I like to think that it made him happy : ) Happy New Year to you, my friend!

  16. RIP your uncle. Sadly, as time goes on we only tend to meet up with extended family at weddings and funerals. I love your idea of having goals as opposed to resolutions...and knitting is pretty chic these days! XXX

  17. @Tanya Savko: I think it's good that we at least make the effort and try, I'm not putting myself under pressure to achieve everything on my list! Yes, I like to think that too. And a very Happy New Year to you too my pal :-)

    @Jean: That is so true regarding families. Knitting and crochet really are making a comeback, aren't they?!

    Thanks for your comments and condolences :-)

    xx Jazzy


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